Have you ever felt like you needed a vacation from your vacation? Recently, I was talking with a client who had just returned from a family vacation to the Mediterranean. Despite exploring countless tourist sites, islands, and beaches, he confided in me that he felt utterly exhausted. Intrigued, I asked him about the best part of his trip. His response surprised me: it was the day he stayed back at the hotel to care for his sick child. As his little one slept, he delved into a book about Rumi and Sufism, finding a profound sense of peace, spiritual connection, and insight.
This conversation got me reflecting on my own experiences with vacations and the ways most people approach their time off. In a world where we all have things to do, places to go, and people to see—a world obsessed with doing, doing, doing—are we missing something essential? I think we are. We’re missing the ability to be intentional about our vacations.
The Three Dimensions of an Intentional Vacation
When designing an intentional vacation, it’s important to consider the three core dimensions of life: being, doing, and having. Most vacations focus solely on the latter two, packing itineraries full of activities, sights to see, and experiences to collect. But an intentional vacation balances these dimensions, creating space for simply being.
Here are three distinct types of intentional vacations:
The “Doing” Vacation (Yang): This is the non-stop, action-packed trip filled with sightseeing, adventures, and checking items off a bucket list. While exciting, it can leave us more drained than when we began, requiring another vacation so that you can recuperate! This type of vacation embodies the masculine energy of yang, focusing on external experiences and accomplishments. Most people’s bucket lists includes this type of vacation. Here are a few examples:
- A whirlwind tour of Europe’s capital cities
- An adrenaline-fueled ski trip packed with activities
- A theme park extravaganza with endless rides and shows
The “Being” Vacation (Yin): In contrast, this type of getaway prioritizes rest, introspection, receptivity, restoration, and savoring the present moment. It’s about nourishing our hearts, minds, bodies, and souls, rather than just our Instagram feeds. This vacation type aligns with the feminine energy of yin, emphasizing internal reflection and rejuvenation. Some examples include:
- A silent meditation retreat in a peaceful natural setting
- A cozy cabin stay filled with reading, journaling, and fireside chats
- A leisurely beach vacation focused on relaxation and self-care
The “Balanced” Vacation (Yin-Yang): The sweet spot lies in a trip that harmonizes both doing and being. It offers space for activities and exploration, but also carves out ample time for relaxation and reflection. This type of intentional vacation balances the masculine and feminine energies, creating a holistic experience that nourishes both the external and internal self. Here are some examples:
- A yoga retreat that combines daily classes with plenty of free time
- A cultural city trip with a mix of sightseeing and leisurely café breaks
- A nature getaway with hiking and adventure balanced by campfire downtime
By intentionally designing a vacation that incorporates elements of being and doing, you create a transformative experience that leaves you feeling refreshed, inspired, and connected to your deepest self. More importantly, it will make your heart happier!
Tuning Into Your Heart
Before embarking on an intentional vacation, take a moment to pause and connect with your heart. Ask yourself:
- What is the true intention behind this vacation?
- What is it that I’m truly wanting by going on this vacation?
- Am I seeking novel experiences and adventures, or a chance to rest and recharge?
- How can I balance both doing and being in a way that feels nourishing?
Remember, an intentional vacation is about honoring your unique needs while crafting an experience that allows you to experience your heart’s true desires.
Putting It Into Practice
Once you’ve gained clarity about your vacation, consider these tips for infusing more intention into your next trip:
- Build in unscheduled downtime for spontaneous relaxation or reflection
- Choose accommodations that feel peaceful and rejuvenating, like a cozy cabin or serene beach resort
- Incorporate practices, such as meditation, journaling, or contemplating scenic views
- Give yourself permission to simply do nothing and just be
Final Thoughts
Just as your heart has a systole and diastole, one yang and one yin, strive to create more balanced intentional vacations that harmonize doing with being. By embracing both the masculine and feminine energies within yourself, you’ll create a vacation experience that is truly holistic and transformative.
An intentional vacation has the power to change your life in profound ways. By stepping away from the daily grind and immersing yourself in a purposefully designed getaway, you create space for renewal, self-discovery, and a deeper connection to what matters most. You also create, believe it or not, space within you to receive Divine wisdom and guidance.
So, as you plan your next getaway, remember: an intentional vacation is more than just a frivolous luxury. It’s a sacred act of self-care, a catalyst for personal growth, and an investment in your overall well-being.
Can you love yourself as much as to be intentional about your next vacation?
From my heart to yours,
