Rumi’s Teaching on Finding True Love

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By Gabriel Gonsalves

Personal mastery, leadership development, and spiritual growth with the heart in mind. 

The 13th-century Persian poet and Sufi mystic Rumi had a profound understanding of love and its role in our spiritual journey. He believed that true love transcends physical attraction and emotional attachment, and that the quest for true love is actually the quest for union with the Divine. In this week’s article, we will explore Rumi’s core teachings about finding true love and how you can apply them in your life.


Rumi’s Teaching on Finding True Love

1. What You Seek is Seeking You

According to Rumi, what we are looking for in life is already searching for us. This means that the person who is perfect for us is out there, and they are looking for us just as much as we are looking for them. This is based on the principles of manifestation and the law of attraction, which suggest that our thoughts and feelings have a significant impact on the people and situations that come into our lives. To attract love, focus on positive emotions and loving thoughts.

2. Lovers Are In Each Other All Along

Rumi believed that our search for love is actually a search for union with our true Self and with the Divine. Our soulmate has been with us all along, and they can be found in any relationship that brings us closer to the divine, not just in romantic love. This includes relationships with friends, family, and even strangers. All relationships have the potential to help us grow and evolve spiritually.

3. Your Task is Not To Seek Love

To experience true love, Rumi emphasized the importance of being love rather than seeking love. Letting go of our inner blocks to love will create a healthy, nurturing environment that will inevitably attract positive relationships. By being loving toward ourselves, we are also better equipped to recognize and attract more loving, harmonious relationships.

4. The Wound is Where The Light Enters

Before we can find love and happiness, we must first understand and accept ourselves, according to Rumi. This means opening up to our insecurities and fears, embracing our emotional wounds, and allowing self-awareness to enter. Though this process can be painful, it is a necessary step in gaining a more in-depth understanding of our true desires and needs, which can ultimately lead us to finding a compatible and loving partner.

5. Seek First to Change Yourself

Rumi suggested that working on ourselves by practicing gratitude and mindfulness can help attract a soulmate. By being grateful for what we have and mindful of our thoughts and feelings, we can better understand and connect with those around us. This can help attract a soulmate who is aligned with our values and desires, and also help us maintain healthy relationships.

6. Let Yourself Be Drawn By What You Love

Rumi emphasized the importance of self-discovery in finding true love. By exploring your passions and interests, you can better understand your unique purpose in life and what you truly desire. This self-discovery can help attract a soulmate who is aligned with your values and desires. Follow your heart and let yourself be drawn to what you love, and it will not lead you astray.

7. Love, Lover, and Beloved are One

This teaching emphasizes the idea that love is not just an emotion or feeling, but a force that brings people together and creates a union between the lover and the beloved. In this unity, the lover and beloved become one, and the love between them is a reflection of the love that exists within the universe. Rumi’s teachings remind us that love is not just something that we experience, but something that we are.

The Quest for True Love

In the end, Rumi reminds us that the quest for true love is not just about finding a romantic partner, but about finding union with our true Self and the Divine, through the heart. When we become the best, most loving version of ourselves, we love ourselves, love others, and allow love to flow freely. This attracts love and positivity into our lives, enabling us to better connect with others and experience a greater love.

Rumi’s teachings about finding true love offer valuable insights for anyone seeking a soulmate or a deeper connection with the Divine. By following these seven teachings, we can experience the joy and fulfillment that comes from being deeply connected to the Divine and to those around us.

For those looking to delve even deeper into Rumi’s teachings, here are a few of his most popular books that you might enjoy:

  • The Essential Rumi – A collection of Rumi’s poems and teachings, translated by Coleman Barks.

  • The Soul of Rumi – Another collection of Rumi’s poems, this one translated by Jalal al-Din Rumi himself.

  • The Rumi Collection – A comprehensive collection of Rumi’s poetry, prose, and letters, with a focus on his teachings on love, spirituality, and self-discovery.

  • Rumi: Daylight – A compilation of Rumi’s poems, including both his well-known works and some lesser-known pieces.

No matter which book you choose, you’re sure to find inspiration and guidance on your journey towards finding true love, romance, and fulfillment.

What steps can you take today to embrace Rumi’s teachings on finding true love and attract a soulmate who will support you on your journey towards self-discovery and spiritual growth?

From my heart to yours,