The power to transcend your current limitations and challenges lies within you. But what exactly does that mean? And, how do you go about using this power? This is what this article is about.
One of the main reasons the majority of us cannot transcend our problems is because they have become part of our identity or set of beliefs about who we are. Deep within, a part of us refuses to let go of the story we’ve grown so used to telling ourselves or others about why we are the way we are…
How unfairly we’ve been treated by our friends, co-workers, partners, family, destiny, or God.
How others must first apologize for what they did before we can forgive them.
How we are messed up because of something one of our parents did to us.
This over-identification with the story we keep telling ourselves and, more importantly, the emotional payoff or ‘juice’ we get from telling the story repeatedly is what perpetuates the problem and keeps up from transcending it.
Moving beyond our problems or current limitations requires giving up both the story and the emotional payoff we are receiving from it. These are two essential Emotional Sel-Mastery skills I teach in the Heart Warrior and Heart Leader Programs.
Moving Beyond the Stories
If, for example, you have a financial problem, you must be willing to stop telling yourself and others the story of how broke you are, how no one will ever hire you, or how old and undeserving of money you are. You must also give up the attachment to feeling sorry for yourself or having other people’s sympathy.
One way to let go of the story is to ask yourself these simple yet powerful question: who would you be without the story?
Who would you be without the story that you’re too old to find the ideal job, start a new career, or live your dreams?
Who would you be without the story that you’re too wrinkled, fat, or broken to find love?
Who would you be without the story that you’re too tired, too sick, or too stressed to write that book, start that project, or do that thing you love?
Who would you be without the story you keep telling yourself about why you can’t have or deserve what your heart longs for?
Letting Go of the Emotional Payoff
A way to let go of the emotional payoff or juice you get from holding on to the story is by practicing the Letting Go Technique. In his book, Lettin Go: The Patway of Surrender, Dr. David Hawkins, describes is in the following manner:
“Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it come up, staying with it, and letting it run its course without wanting to make it different or do anything about it. It means simply to let the feelings be there and to focus on letting out the energy behind it. The first step is to allow yourself to have the feelings without resisting it, venting it, fearing it, condemning it, or moralizing about it. It means to drop judgment and to see that it is just a feeling.
The technique is to be with the feeling and surrender all efforts to modify it in any way. Let go of wanting to resist the feeling. It is resistance that keeps the feeling going. When you give up resisting or trying to modify the feeling, it will shift to the next feeling and be accompanied by a lighter sensation. A feeling that is not resisted will disappear as the energy behind it dissipates.”
Reclaiming your Power
Letting go of the story and the emotional payoff you get from it is the first step towards reclaiming your power. Doing this requires that you take 100% responsibility for your life and for all that you’re currently experiencing and begin to see yourself as the author and creator of your life.
The power to change any situation has always been inside of you. Because ultimately, you are the consciousness that created the problem, and therefore, you are also the consciousness that will transcend it. This requires you to change the story and how you feel about it!
Within you. That’s where your true power lies. You are that power.
Now that I’ve reminded you of this, how can you apply this regarding that situation, issue, or relationship problem bothering you?
From my heart to yours,